just make sure you can support yourself when he decides to leave you.a viable career (or financial independance) is a necessity for self-reliance and independance in today's world.
-the_dumb_one(dumb_and_dumber);
2005-8-11{112}(#2446382@0)
"We don't live for money. we don't live for love. we live in order to die. "精辟!但不敢苟同。我始终认为幸福的家庭,需要夫妻有分工,在内在外都重要。You must be fully prepared if he leaves you. I really want to know
the details. PM me, 也算拯救兄弟一把。
-int(踏雪寻梅);
2005-8-12{107}(#2448441@0)
The only thing I want to say to you is that whatever you chose to be, have a liitle more faith to your marriage, or your husband if you have one.
-xianqiliangmu(幸福靠自己);
2005-8-16(#2454294@0)
anybody should remember this when they do get divorced. are you telling people to turn blind eyes to the fact of this society? are you from the moon?
-gnits(sting);
2005-8-16(#2454388@0)
Have faith doesn't mean turn blind eyes.我的一个好姐妹友离婚后常说,天下没有好男人,我算看透了。在聊天中我也常劝她不要错过现有的这些追求者们,我对孩子们也说,即使你失恋了,也不要lost your faith in love.
Lots of people on this planet believe in love and marriage, that is why they get married, they are lucky. Lots of people on this planet don't believe in love or marriage,that is why they would like to be single,it is acceptalbe to me . However, for those people who married the one he/she doesn't trust, I feel sympethetic.
-xianqiliangmu(幸福靠自己);
2005-8-16{489}(#2454429@0)
I feel sorry for you.It is your own responsibility to keep your skill sharp, even your spouse support you, don't take that for granted.
If you lost faith, try to keep it back.
good luck.
-xianqiliangmu(幸福靠自己);
2005-8-16{169}(#2454516@0)
why do you feel sorry for so many people? only because you think you can keep your skill sharp? how sharp is it?funny
-gnits(sting);
2005-8-16{5}(#2454566@0)
strongly disagree! why it has to be women who should stay at home taking care of household? why can't be men?only independent people (mentally and financially) will get respection, that's truth, that's what women are fignting for over centuries! If you want to go back to old time, go ahead yourself, don't try to mislead others and new generations!
-daylight(timebegins);
2005-8-16{243}(#2454431@0)
"不过我想这点要男人也认同的话可能会难点", that's why women have to accept? everybody is the same as a human in this world, women don't owe men anything! SO they don't have to do those things men don't want to.
-daylight(timebegins);
2005-8-16(#2454459@0)
we only have one life, people should have right to choose their only life style,as long as they can manage it, they should not be blamed. those women who have child, if they want to work or go to school, there is nothing wrong with it, because that's the life style they choose. Some people may choose to sacrifise their own interests for the family, they should be respected, but you cannot expect everybody make the same choice. Neither husband or kids have right to blame them.
-daylight(timebegins);
2005-8-16{401}(#2454494@0)
no one is blamed here, take it easy.If you feel offensed, I can stop.
-xianqiliangmu(幸福靠自己);
2005-8-16(#2454533@0)
If you have a daughter, just send her to the school which only teaches how to cook, sew, clean and all the household stuff, you want her to be a housewife anyways.then all you need to do in the future is to find her a decent husband who can make money, but make sure he likes to marry a housewife.
-daylight(timebegins);
2005-8-16{134}(#2454444@0)
be realistic, women have been fighting for their equal right with men for centuries,because nobody can really help those dependent women to get their equal right, you stay in your dreamland with your wish? that's your choice.
-daylight(timebegins);
2005-8-16{142}(#2454501@0)
people don't always have choices
-gnits(sting);
2005-8-16(#2454512@0)
but they should try their best, once they get it, they should not be blamed. If people don't want to fight for their own right, it's also their choice, they should not complain about others.it's up to them.
-daylight(timebegins);
2005-8-16{17}(#2454523@0)
some people can always keep their "skills" sharp, that is what the poster said, it sounds so funny
-gnits(sting);
2005-8-16(#2454568@0)
if "我只想自己家人能真正快乐", then you don't have to bring this topic up to the public, just enjoy yourself in your house with your family, good luck!
-daylight(timebegins);
2005-8-16(#2454532@0)
don't tell me how to think.
-xianqiliangmu(幸福靠自己);
2005-8-16(#2454543@0)
"如果家庭经济允许,丈夫也支持,家庭也需要女人照顾,女人还是选择出去工作", there is nothing wrong with it, send kids to day care."自己迫不及待去念书,有的甚至为了读书把孩子送回国,是什么让她这么要出去?"
It's their right!
-daylight(timebegins);
2005-8-16{96}(#2454620@0)
your question is "是什么让她这么要出去?"
isn't it a blame? or I misunderstood?
-daylight(timebegins);
2005-8-16(#2454645@0)
I repeat:That is not a blame, that is your misunderstood.
-xianqiliangmu(幸福靠自己);
2005-8-16{48}(#2454667@0)
if its not a blaming, at least you are questioning,it seems that you made lots of people here misunderstand, shouldn't you be careful with the words you are using and the way you talk.
-daylight(timebegins);
2005-8-16{134}(#2454680@0)